Happy Weekend

Cupcakes for Breakfast: friends in the city

{image by Con Poulos}

How is it Friday already?/Can’t believe it’s already Friday! – I’m a bit conflicted about this week. But I think its ending on a good note. I know I haven’t been posting much but I think it’s about to change that. I’m missing it. In the meantime, inspired by my friend Alejandra, I want to share some of my favorite things this week:

Stop Telling Single Women They’re Fabulous. I mean, we are, but I prefer “fabulous plus”.

Thanks for this awesome profile, Famous DC. Check it out to read about some of my favorite DC eats!

I just love this new underwear brand, Dear Kate! Check them out and get 25% off with code “cupcakesforbreakfast” through Valentine’s Day.

Happy Birthday Justin Timberlake!

The Best 90′s Songs You Forgot (but I didn’t since I still listen to them all regularly.)

Favorite meals out recently: brunch at Cork, pizza (that you cut with scissors!) at Ghibellina, pork belly at Cava Mezze, brunch at Medium Rare.

Listen to: The 1975, A Great Big World, Jesse McCartney, Young the Giant

Read: Provence 1970, Food for Marriage, Looking for Alaska

I’m so sick of this freezing cold weather. Instead I’ll take these spring pastels from JCrew and an escape to sunshine with Sarah!

This inspiring story + beautiful apartment tour is one of my most favorite Everygirl pieces.

I got a new bed! This Linen Charcoal Tufted Wingback one is such a beauty.

Planning a trip to Nashville for my birthday in April. Taking any and all recommendations!

Shameless plug: follow @cavagrill on instagram. You won’t be sorry.

Love and Respect

Cupcakes for Breakfast: Love and Respect Thyself

I can’t quite put a finger on what I’m feeling right now. It’s pretty funny because I have so many feelings. Sometimes I think I have too many. I think and feel all day long. And wonder why others aren’t feeling as much as I am. But right now I feel happy, comfortable (sometimes you just have to clarify that this isn’t a sad story) …and this is why.

I think what’s been on my mind has a lot to do with love and respect. How you can’t always expect it from others, so it’s important to give it back to yourself.

This tweet from Rebecca Schinsky has stuck with me since I saw it last week: Do men ever feel that they’re making the choice between being liked and being respected, or is that a pleasure reserved for women?

But I don’t want to choose. I want both. And since quite often it doesn’t go that way, I’ve been taking over and just doing it. Love and respect myself. I’ve been doing this my whole life but now it seems even more important. Some may think this is a given, something natural, but it’s something we all don’t do enough. It doesn’t just happen. It takes time and consideration. Some may think I’m selfish, and to that I say, so what? I’m kind to others, I work hard, and I have the great pleasure of only answering to myself at the end of the day. Why don’t I deserve to be a little selfish? What do you care?

So I cook cheese and carb loaded meals for myself. I watch marathons of The Fosters. I dance around in my bra and underwear to Britney Spears and count it as my work out. I cry just because I need a cry. I stay longer with a friend because seeing her smile makes me smile. I cancel plans so I can go to yoga because I need that time on the mat. I write in my journal instead of here on my blog. I go to bed at 9pm sometimes. I eat cake in bed and indulge in fabulous dinners at pricey restaurants with friends. I’m not waiting around for happiness or love or respect to show up on my doorstep. These are things I create for myself.

You could assume then that I’m hard, closed off, bitter. But I’m not. I’m ridiculously vulnerable. Maybe its counterintuitive but like I said, I have all the feelings. Really, all of them. I leave my heart open even though I know it might get taken advantage of. It’s not that I’m not learning from my experiences, but my optimism kind of just overrides everything else. Sure sometimes it makes reality suck so much more, but I wouldn’t trade my optimism for anything.

Does this even make sense? My point is just that even though it feels we have to, let’s try not to choose one or the other. Love and respect – for yourself and others. Make time for it. Prove that it means something and goes a long way. (Especially in spite of those who don’t understand.) You are worthy. You are awesome. You have all the tools to make life count and find joy. /cheesypeptalk

Classic Comfort Cake With Whipped Chocolate Frosting

Cupcakes for Breakfast: Vanilla Layer Cake with Whipped Chocolate Frosting

There’s not much that cake can’t fix. A day-long headache. An awful date. A freezing cold day. Especially when it’s a no-fuss, classic cake. You know, the kind that you’d make with a box mix for a 5th birthday party. The kind you’d find at diner under a bright light and glass dome. They strike a cord in your soul somehow. There’s just pure good stuff waiting for you in that cake.

Cupcakes for Breakfast: Vanilla Layer Cake with Whipped Chocolate Frosting

I went into this baking hour with hopes to make something dramatic. Multi-layers. Two different kinds of frostings. Designed and decorated. But with no surprise, I ended up with this. When it comes to dessert, actually most food, fancy isn’t my style. I want that comforting cake that can cure my bad day or cheer up a friend. The one that’s about how it tastes. And how it makes you feel. Eat it breakfast, or at 1am after a Story of My Life dance party with friends.

It’s simple. It’s warming. It’s not made from a box. And it’s right in front of you.

Cupcakes for Breakfast: Vanilla Layer Cake with Whipped Chocolate Frosting

Whipped Chocolate Frosting

  • 3 sticks (12 ounces) unsalted butter, at room temperature
  • 6 ounces unsweetened chocolate, melted and cooled
  • 5 tablespoons heavy cream
  • 1 tablespoon vanilla extract
  • 4 cups confectioners’ sugar
  1. In a large mixing bowl, beat butter until fluffy.
  2. Add chocolate, cream, and vanilla, and continue to beat until smooth.
  3. Add confectioners’ sugar in parts until it’s all incorporated.
  4. Frost on a cooled cake like this classic vanilla from Martha.